Self-Restraint

I believe in abstinence. Call me old-fashion; call me conservative, the pastor’s kid, a God-lover or even a wimp. I really don't mind. I believe in self-discipline; restraining myself from acting upon that desire until the time is right.

Although Christianity is a huge and important factor to this belief, it is also a personal goal that I have set for myself years ago. It is something that I can have a sense of pride in, something to look forward to in the future. It is something that sets me apart from the prevalent world of young adults. For the majority of the media today including movies, shows, lyrics and the internet, it is uncommon to reveal the matter of abstinence.

As I mature and grow older within each year, I became less stunned whenever a friend would tell me that they are no longer a virgin. Please don’t misinterpret me – I do not look down on them nor do I think I am better than that person. I am aware of that abstinence is not for everyone and I have accepted that reality. This is my own individual belief, not for the entire human race. However, because abstinence is such an intricate way to live by, I want to prove not only to others, but more significantly; to myself that it is possible to wait.

I believe in abstinence so that my future husband (whoever that may be) will believe that I genuinely love him. He will believe that I married him because of whom he is and that I have waited patiently for only him. I am blessed to have close friends that support me on this belief and I believe that believing in abstinence will then bless me of finding my life-long partner that will one day place that gold wedding band on my left ring finger.

This, I believe.